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BRING FOOD…and other advice for visiting a new mom and baby

I was so happy when I read this HuffPost Parents blog by Megan Cottrell explaining how to be the best visitor ever- it’s spot on. Unfortunately, most of the people who need these tips probably don’t read blogs or frequent Facebook, but maybe this will get back to them (fingers crossed). Not only are new moms sleep deprived and overwhelmed, they are also doing something that most of us seem to forget about: recovering from a pretty serious (and sometimes traumatic) physical event. So yes they’re tired- but also, literally, getting back on their feet. So please be easy on them, and follow this author’s advice:

1) Call before you come. Do not, I repeat, do not, stop by unannounced. Also, give your buddy a bit of time to respond to a request to visit. She’s likely not as glued to her cell phone or email as she once was. I often had people send me an email at 2:00 p.m. saying, “Hey, can I come by at 4?” Yes, but I didn’t get your email until 6, so no.

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The bubbles we live in

I was struggling with writing this week because it seems so petty to write about the challenges of getting rid of the pacifier when there are towns in Massachusetts on lockdown right now because a killer is on the loose. The news has been horrifying, and that family that lost their little 8 year old boy, no words. Most of us mentally added ‘marathons’ to the list of public places and events to fear based on recent attacks and shootings. Where can we, and more importantly, our children, feel safe? It is a terrible feeling. Read the rest of this entry »

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Foolproof toddler food

I’ve mentioned before that I am not a great cook. I know enough to get by, but totally lack the ability to just throw some things together and voila: a delicious, edible meal. I missed out on the gene pool for this one; my family is full of great cooks (my sister even cooks us dinner at least once or twice a week which is a huge bonus). I like simple recipes with easy steps, which turns out to be ideal for baby food and toddler meals (and also for my husband who does not like anything new or weird in his food- when I met him he didn’t like onions or garlic?!?!). Making infant baby food was pretty easy; the Baby Brezza was our savior. You can get more creative with toddler food. The most important thing is to keep trying… what they don’t like at first, they might like the third or fourth or tenth time around. Don’t rule anything out. It can get frustrating, but don’t give in too quickly. There have been times when I have pried their mouths open to just give them a little taste and then they turned out liking it. Or doused it in applesauce. Or called quinoa ‘oatmeal’. Sometimes, this backfires- they totally knew I was messing with them and refused to eat oatmeal for a while. They are smarter than we think… Read the rest of this entry »

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Check out this mom’s best parenting advice ever.

This is an amazing article, especially for twin mommas. I always prided myself on being independent and self-sufficient, so letting go and leaning on others was difficult for me. I have a master’s degree in engineering, how could I buckle under the stress of two infants? It took me a few weeks days to realize I couldn’t handle it all on my own. My husband is a landscaper and his season started back up just when the twins were born, so he was literally out the door an hour after we got home from the hospital and was gone the next few months from sunrise to sunset. The lack of sleep mixed with some crazy post-baby hormones were starting to get to me. I needed help! Read the rest of this entry »

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