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It’s potty time!

It has been way to long since my last post. We’ve accomplished a lot, including potty training and a new baby! I actually started this post over a month ago and never finished.

I saw one of my friends was potty training her little boy who is about a month older than my twins. I started grilling her (are you used to it yet Jenny?), and then saw someone wrote on one of her posts about The Potty Boot Camp. I looked it up right away, saw how many good reviews it got, and immediately bought it on my Kindle app on my iPhone. It was a quick and easy read and even had charts to help you figure out the routine the first few days- which my analytical brain loved. I highly recommend it. It is a definitely a balls-to-the-walls approach; totally worked for me but then again, I was strapped for time and had a new baby coming in a few weeks. The thing I loved most about this author was that she said that most people will say potty training will happen when your child is ready, but this method is all about doing it when YOU are ready. Kids adapt, and they are very intelligent. Be prepared to sacrifice a few days at home, one-on-one with your kids (and maybe a few couches covered in plastic); it’s totally doable.

b3 showing the undies

b3 showing the undies

Two at once was a challenge, and I was once again amazed at how different my boys are. One adapted very quickly; bribing with M&Ms instantly clicked with him. My other son was a little more difficult; he may have had less physical control at first, because it took him a few more days to catch on. This was disheartening, especially because he saw his brother getting rewarded constantly, and had no idea why he wasn’t getting anything. I did slip him some chocolate now and then just to keep my own spirits up.

To prep for the big day, I rolled up all the area rugs around my house (luckily we have all hardwood and tile), and lined our couch with waterproof pads and put a big sheet over it so the boys couldn’t throw them. I had two little toilets in the bathroom and a toilet seat on the regular toilet. I put these out a few days in advance just so they weren’t caught off guard.

The days were long and intense (mostly because you are stuck home), but by the third or fourth day we were pretty much in the clear. Now, only three months later, they are pros.

Some potty buying tips:

  • Get simple potties. All the bells and whistles (like crazy noises when they pee or flush) just seemed like they distracted them even more. I had two of the BABYBJORN Potty Chairs, they were easy to clean and got the job done.
  • Eventually, cleaning out the little kid potty gets annoying, so the last few weeks I have made them go on the regular toilet. We have a few at our families’ homes, so they got to ‘test drive’ a few. I found them to be most comfortable on the Graco Contour Potty Ring.
  • I bought a portable potty that I only used once on the beach (Fisher-Price 2-in-1 Portable Potty). The nice thing about this is that you can throw the top ring part in your diaper bag for when you are public restrooms. Your child won’t feel like he is falling in the toilet.

Twin tips:

  • Be ready for one to catch on before the other. One kid may just have more muscle control that the other. I am not a doctor, I have no idea how that actually works. But I know that three months later, he still sometimes leaks a little and then has to sprint to the potty.
  • It is tough, but try to keep your “bribes”, or else they will see through you! Kids are smart. And manipulative.
  • If one catches on before the other, have him or her help motivate and cheer the other child. My one son that caught on quick was joining me on cheering on my other son, which was so cute and at least showed that he wanted his brother to get rewarded to.
  • Do what you can to have them sit on that toilet until something happens. They were watching short movies on my iPad, which we had to stop doing after the first day because then they never wanted to get off the potty.

Naps and sleep..what to do? I kept their underwear always on, and put a diaper right over the underwear for the first few weeks so they could feel themselves wet. Once they consistently woke up dry, I stopped using the diapers. Every kid is different, and some may have to wear diapers while sleeping for a while.

They are just starting to learn to pee standing up (and they call it “pee backwards” haha), which is just adding to all the cleaning up fun.

I am so thrilled to have it over and done with. It meant no more beach trips with soggy, sand filled diapers. I am back to buying diapers because of the new baby, but one is better than three. It was definitely tough, but like every big parenting move, WE SURVIVED.

May the porcelain gods be ever in your favor.

a very naked summer

a very naked summer


Farm to Fork: Our Toxic Food System (from Healthy Child, Healthy World)

A good (and gross) summary of what goes in our food today.

PS: If you are like me and too lazy to take care of a garden, look for a Community Supported Agriculture (CSA) Crop Sharing program in your neighborhood. We joined the Llama Mama Good Farm’s crop share this spring. We get a weekly basket of fresh, organic produce, grown right in near us in Morganville. I think their weekly pickups are sold out, but you can sign up on their website to receive an email when there are extra baskets available for purchase – check out their Facebook and Instagram too! Read the rest of this entry »

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Cleaning pacifiers the healthy way: DIY

Bruce Jr, Bruce III & Salvatore

My binky boys @ 5 months (and 29 years)

Good news about your instinctive method of cleaning pacifiers

Finally, a sigh of relief. It’s great to here a positive story about something you probably do anyway (if you are lucky enough to have a pacifier-addicted child). The Keehn beans are three weeks binky-free, but this was too good not to share.

The short and sweet news: Spreading germs to your kids by cleaning their pacifier with your own mouth can actually decrease their chances of having allergies, eczema, and asthma. Throw away those silly paci wipes that you forget to use anyway (or save them for those disgusting public restroom falls).

Here is the fancy explanation from Pediatrics, The Official Journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics: Parental sucking of their infant’s pacifier may reduce the risk of allergy development, possibly via immune stimulation by microbes transferred to the infant via the parent’s saliva.  More semi-snoozeworthy info here

So suck that binky clean, guilt free!

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BRING FOOD…and other advice for visiting a new mom and baby

I was so happy when I read this HuffPost Parents blog by Megan Cottrell explaining how to be the best visitor ever- it’s spot on. Unfortunately, most of the people who need these tips probably don’t read blogs or frequent Facebook, but maybe this will get back to them (fingers crossed). Not only are new moms sleep deprived and overwhelmed, they are also doing something that most of us seem to forget about: recovering from a pretty serious (and sometimes traumatic) physical event. So yes they’re tired- but also, literally, getting back on their feet. So please be easy on them, and follow this author’s advice:

1) Call before you come. Do not, I repeat, do not, stop by unannounced. Also, give your buddy a bit of time to respond to a request to visit. She’s likely not as glued to her cell phone or email as she once was. I often had people send me an email at 2:00 p.m. saying, “Hey, can I come by at 4?” Yes, but I didn’t get your email until 6, so no.

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Spring cleaning for the lazy momma: how to sell old baby clothes without leaving your house

Like they don’t fly through sizes fast enough, seasonal changes =  trying to jam even more clothes into their already over-stuffed drawers and closets. I think if I put another bin of baby clothes in the attic, my ceiling is going to collapse.  I was beyond thrilled when this Clean Out Bag showed up with my order. This is an easy way to get rid of your old stuff make some extra cash. Read the rest of this entry »

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The bubbles we live in

I was struggling with writing this week because it seems so petty to write about the challenges of getting rid of the pacifier when there are towns in Massachusetts on lockdown right now because a killer is on the loose. The news has been horrifying, and that family that lost their little 8 year old boy, no words. Most of us mentally added ‘marathons’ to the list of public places and events to fear based on recent attacks and shootings. Where can we, and more importantly, our children, feel safe? It is a terrible feeling. Read the rest of this entry »

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Do you Fakebook? Are you a momplainer?

We have all been there…a big event or vacation we’ve been looking forward to for months, which has its moments of a total “family fail”. Nothing too catastrophic happens, but the day(s) may end in frustration, exhaustion and even a few tears (not to mention the non-verbal, solely evil-eye-based communication path now occurring between you and your spouse). Staycations never looked so good.

But, for three seconds, you had both kids smiling and were able to post the perfect picture on Facebook. Mission accomplished. Now everyone knows you were there and had a good time. Done. Erin Zammett Ruddy, the author of this blog, has a term for this: Fakebooking. We are all guilty. I am definitely a fan of posting the “life is perfect” pics, but to be fair, I sometimes share the outtakes.

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Check out this mom’s best parenting advice ever.

This is an amazing article, especially for twin mommas. I always prided myself on being independent and self-sufficient, so letting go and leaning on others was difficult for me. I have a master’s degree in engineering, how could I buckle under the stress of two infants? It took me a few weeks days to realize I couldn’t handle it all on my own. My husband is a landscaper and his season started back up just when the twins were born, so he was literally out the door an hour after we got home from the hospital and was gone the next few months from sunrise to sunset. The lack of sleep mixed with some crazy post-baby hormones were starting to get to me. I needed help! Read the rest of this entry »

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Why two really are better than one

I have probably done a great deal of scaring some people with my twin momma stories. But I wanted to take some time to list out the amazing benefits of having two bundles of joy!

  1. One pregnancy – Let’s start with the obvious: nine months, two babies. I didn’t mind being pregnant, but I was definitely excited to NOT be pregnant anymore. In nine months, we achieve what most mothers nowadays accomplish in a three year span- having two children.
  2. Husband involvement – Dads really don’t have a choice but to be involved with twins. There was no alternating night feedings throughout those first few months- we were both up every three hours, Boppys on our laps, feeding the babies. I had a c-section and was out of commission for the first 24 hours, and apparently the nurses were putting my husband through baby boot camp. He had to show me how to change their diapers and swaddle them up. The nurses even made him bathe them. And he was not messing with those ladies, they totally outnumbered him. It was amazing. From that point on, I knew we’d be a great team. He has been completely involved in every aspect of taking care of them since their first few minutes. He still gives them baths every night. I still have the final say on dressing them when venturing out in public. Read the rest of this entry »
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