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It’s potty time!

It has been way to long since my last post. We’ve accomplished a lot, including potty training and a new baby! I actually started this post over a month ago and never finished.

I saw one of my friends was potty training her little boy who is about a month older than my twins. I started grilling her (are you used to it yet Jenny?), and then saw someone wrote on one of her posts about The Potty Boot Camp. I looked it up right away, saw how many good reviews it got, and immediately bought it on my Kindle app on my iPhone. It was a quick and easy read and even had charts to help you figure out the routine the first few days- which my analytical brain loved. I highly recommend it. It is a definitely a balls-to-the-walls approach; totally worked for me but then again, I was strapped for time and had a new baby coming in a few weeks. The thing I loved most about this author was that she said that most people will say potty training will happen when your child is ready, but this method is all about doing it when YOU are ready. Kids adapt, and they are very intelligent. Be prepared to sacrifice a few days at home, one-on-one with your kids (and maybe a few couches covered in plastic); it’s totally doable.

b3 showing the undies

b3 showing the undies

Two at once was a challenge, and I was once again amazed at how different my boys are. One adapted very quickly; bribing with M&Ms instantly clicked with him. My other son was a little more difficult; he may have had less physical control at first, because it took him a few more days to catch on. This was disheartening, especially because he saw his brother getting rewarded constantly, and had no idea why he wasn’t getting anything. I did slip him some chocolate now and then just to keep my own spirits up.

To prep for the big day, I rolled up all the area rugs around my house (luckily we have all hardwood and tile), and lined our couch with waterproof pads and put a big sheet over it so the boys couldn’t throw them. I had two little toilets in the bathroom and a toilet seat on the regular toilet. I put these out a few days in advance just so they weren’t caught off guard.

The days were long and intense (mostly because you are stuck home), but by the third or fourth day we were pretty much in the clear. Now, only three months later, they are pros.

Some potty buying tips:

  • Get simple potties. All the bells and whistles (like crazy noises when they pee or flush) just seemed like they distracted them even more. I had two of the BABYBJORN Potty Chairs, they were easy to clean and got the job done.
  • Eventually, cleaning out the little kid potty gets annoying, so the last few weeks I have made them go on the regular toilet. We have a few at our families’ homes, so they got to ‘test drive’ a few. I found them to be most comfortable on the Graco Contour Potty Ring.
  • I bought a portable potty that I only used once on the beach (Fisher-Price 2-in-1 Portable Potty). The nice thing about this is that you can throw the top ring part in your diaper bag for when you are public restrooms. Your child won’t feel like he is falling in the toilet.

Twin tips:

  • Be ready for one to catch on before the other. One kid may just have more muscle control that the other. I am not a doctor, I have no idea how that actually works. But I know that three months later, he still sometimes leaks a little and then has to sprint to the potty.
  • It is tough, but try to keep your “bribes”, or else they will see through you! Kids are smart. And manipulative.
  • If one catches on before the other, have him or her help motivate and cheer the other child. My one son that caught on quick was joining me on cheering on my other son, which was so cute and at least showed that he wanted his brother to get rewarded to.
  • Do what you can to have them sit on that toilet until something happens. They were watching short movies on my iPad, which we had to stop doing after the first day because then they never wanted to get off the potty.

Naps and sleep..what to do? I kept their underwear always on, and put a diaper right over the underwear for the first few weeks so they could feel themselves wet. Once they consistently woke up dry, I stopped using the diapers. Every kid is different, and some may have to wear diapers while sleeping for a while.

They are just starting to learn to pee standing up (and they call it “pee backwards” haha), which is just adding to all the cleaning up fun.

I am so thrilled to have it over and done with. It meant no more beach trips with soggy, sand filled diapers. I am back to buying diapers because of the new baby, but one is better than three. It was definitely tough, but like every big parenting move, WE SURVIVED.

May the porcelain gods be ever in your favor.

a very naked summer

a very naked summer


It’s in the bag: Our favorite on-the-go items

There is nothing easy about traveling with babies, especially when there are more than one. After 26 months and a few major fails (out to eat and realize holy crap we forgot their pacifiers), I think we’ve finally got our diaper bag act together. We even have a specific place we keep it: on the counter in our laundry room so you have to walk passed it to go to our garage; it is almost impossible to forget. And when it isn’t left there, we still do leave without it.

Besides from the obvious diaper bag gear, here are some of our twin diaper bag favorites: Read the rest of this entry »

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Here comes the sun, protect those little darlings!

It’s almost sunblock time… unless you’re my sister, who starts applying in January. It’s also about time for my yearly rant about the bad things in most sunscreens. You can once again thank the Environmental Working Group (EWG) for making me paranoid, not to mention a super crazy mom. Read the rest of this entry »

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Cleaning pacifiers the healthy way: DIY

Bruce Jr, Bruce III & Salvatore

My binky boys @ 5 months (and 29 years)

Good news about your instinctive method of cleaning pacifiers

Finally, a sigh of relief. It’s great to here a positive story about something you probably do anyway (if you are lucky enough to have a pacifier-addicted child). The Keehn beans are three weeks binky-free, but this was too good not to share.

The short and sweet news: Spreading germs to your kids by cleaning their pacifier with your own mouth can actually decrease their chances of having allergies, eczema, and asthma. Throw away those silly paci wipes that you forget to use anyway (or save them for those disgusting public restroom falls).

Here is the fancy explanation from Pediatrics, The Official Journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics: Parental sucking of their infant’s pacifier may reduce the risk of allergy development, possibly via immune stimulation by microbes transferred to the infant via the parent’s saliva.  More semi-snoozeworthy info here

So suck that binky clean, guilt free!

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BRING FOOD…and other advice for visiting a new mom and baby

I was so happy when I read this HuffPost Parents blog by Megan Cottrell explaining how to be the best visitor ever- it’s spot on. Unfortunately, most of the people who need these tips probably don’t read blogs or frequent Facebook, but maybe this will get back to them (fingers crossed). Not only are new moms sleep deprived and overwhelmed, they are also doing something that most of us seem to forget about: recovering from a pretty serious (and sometimes traumatic) physical event. So yes they’re tired- but also, literally, getting back on their feet. So please be easy on them, and follow this author’s advice:

1) Call before you come. Do not, I repeat, do not, stop by unannounced. Also, give your buddy a bit of time to respond to a request to visit. She’s likely not as glued to her cell phone or email as she once was. I often had people send me an email at 2:00 p.m. saying, “Hey, can I come by at 4?” Yes, but I didn’t get your email until 6, so no.

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Spring cleaning for the lazy momma: how to sell old baby clothes without leaving your house

Like they don’t fly through sizes fast enough, seasonal changes =  trying to jam even more clothes into their already over-stuffed drawers and closets. I think if I put another bin of baby clothes in the attic, my ceiling is going to collapse.  I was beyond thrilled when this Clean Out Bag showed up with my order. This is an easy way to get rid of your old stuff make some extra cash. Read the rest of this entry »

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A pickled kitchen: my obsession with vinegar

I know I get made fun of for my obsession with white vinegar, but this is too easy not to share! I hate using Windex and other cleaners around the kids, especially places where they eat and play. I use the Clorox Green Works line as much as I can in the kitchen, but it is pricier than standard cleaners- and there are still some unpronounceable ingredients in it. I made this DIY cleaner this morning, and wiped down my entire kitchen with a few sprays. It worked on my glass table (not one streak), granite counter tops (shiny and no filmy residue) my stainless steel fridge (I sprayed it and wiped it dry to avoid streaking on the stainless steel) and stove. Read the rest of this entry »

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The bubbles we live in

I was struggling with writing this week because it seems so petty to write about the challenges of getting rid of the pacifier when there are towns in Massachusetts on lockdown right now because a killer is on the loose. The news has been horrifying, and that family that lost their little 8 year old boy, no words. Most of us mentally added ‘marathons’ to the list of public places and events to fear based on recent attacks and shootings. Where can we, and more importantly, our children, feel safe? It is a terrible feeling. Read the rest of this entry »

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Foolproof toddler food

I’ve mentioned before that I am not a great cook. I know enough to get by, but totally lack the ability to just throw some things together and voila: a delicious, edible meal. I missed out on the gene pool for this one; my family is full of great cooks (my sister even cooks us dinner at least once or twice a week which is a huge bonus). I like simple recipes with easy steps, which turns out to be ideal for baby food and toddler meals (and also for my husband who does not like anything new or weird in his food- when I met him he didn’t like onions or garlic?!?!). Making infant baby food was pretty easy; the Baby Brezza was our savior. You can get more creative with toddler food. The most important thing is to keep trying… what they don’t like at first, they might like the third or fourth or tenth time around. Don’t rule anything out. It can get frustrating, but don’t give in too quickly. There have been times when I have pried their mouths open to just give them a little taste and then they turned out liking it. Or doused it in applesauce. Or called quinoa ‘oatmeal’. Sometimes, this backfires- they totally knew I was messing with them and refused to eat oatmeal for a while. They are smarter than we think… Read the rest of this entry »

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A Roadmap to Naps

This is an oversimplified version of our nap journey, and hopefully provides a quick insight on what to expect. There is no scientific proof behind this besides my own experiences (and I am not a doctor), but it seems to generally lineup with most baby books. If you are nervous about getting your twins to sleep, try to read about baby’s sleep habits before you have them. These books are far from thrilling, and an exhausted mom will probably make it through half a page before enjoying her own nap.

Stage 1: What did I get myself into? (Newborn – 6 months)

This stage has its pluses and minuses. Newborns have no concept of time, so schedules are flexible. They are super portable, comfortably sleep in their infant carriers, and aren’t bothered by loud noises and distractions. But they still want to eat every few hours throughout the night (they had a constant food supply in our bellies!). Harvey Karp, author of the Happiest Baby on the Block, calls the first three months the “fourth trimester”. For the first few weeks, you’ll feel like you’re stuck next to Bill Murray in Groundhog Day; your days start to blend together because you are constantly drifting in and out of wakefulness. You get used to functioning within a 3-4 hour window of time which usually entails changing diapers, feeding, burping, a little playtime, and a short nap. Then you do it again. Babies do spend a majority of their time sleeping, but with two, it didn’t feel that way. When they’d nap, I remember trying to prioritize my basic needs. What do I want more: sleep, a shower, or a meal? Read the rest of this entry »

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